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Reflecting on Love

Reflecting on Love

Love is one of the most sought out things in life. We naturally seek forms of love in all relationships, platonic and non-platonic. Having over 20 different definitions, love is both a noun and a verb: something that is and an action that can be given/received. We are taught from an early age what love should be. We are raised on fairy tales and fallacies based on experiences or hopes of what love could be. Yet, no one can say how love should feel or be for each person experiencing it. Everyone has a belief of what it is but even we, ourselves, can barely differentiate between the type of love we want and the love we need. Understanding how you receive and give love is essential to healthy connections, so I am sharing something, previously shared with me, to help you reflect on the love you experience in your relationships: 

Me Meditating on Romance and Partnership and Love...It’s not about whether I love you or not.

Does the way I love you feel good to you?

Does the way I love you help make the difficult parts of life feel easier to navigate?

Does the way I love you set you free?

Does the way I love you facilitate or expedite your healing?

Does the way I love you help you grow in a direction that you respect?

Does the way I love you nurture those wounds you been striving to mend on your own?

Does the way I love you inspire your creativity?

Does the way I love you bring about ease, peace, and abundance?

Does the way I love you create enough space for you to have your own autonomy and plenty of love time with yourself and others?

Does the way I love you make you float a little when we’re not together?

Does the way I love you support you in feeling safe enough to be vulnerable and courageous with me?

Does the way I love you feel good even when times are hard?

Does the way I love you hold space for you to know you can make mistakes and resolutions?

Does the way I love you feel resilient and sustainable?

Does the way I love you feed your erotic and sensual desires?

Does the way I love you inspire whimsy and tenderness?

Does the way I love you help you to imagine y/our future with hope and excitement? 

Does the way that I love you provide new opportunities and experiences?

Does the way I love you leave your friends/loved ones congratulatory and happy for you?

Does the way I love allow you to be your full, authentic, and evolving self?

Does the way I love you create space for disagreement and healthy conflict?

Does the way I love you hold space for the nuance of honesty?

Does the way I love leave you feeling loved in the way you want to feel loved?

Does the way I love you look like making adjustments when things aren’t serving both of us?

Does the way I love you honor your dignity, heritage, identity, and self-respect?

Does the way that I love you aide you in being in the sort of relationship you want to be in?

Because I can love you and you can love me all day and night long, but if our love aint doing that....or if we can’t get it to do that....then it might not be a love that’s serving us.

This meditation was written and shared by Vanessa Rochelle Lewis. This piece helped me to reflect and think deeper about what love means to me. Remember that your love may not fit the mold. Honestly, it shouldn't, because you don't. Have a great weekend my Neauxlaloves!

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